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An 18+ BDSM Discord that aims to safely educate those interested in kink. We hold unique weekly educational kink and fetish events (chosen by the community). From inexperienced to veteran BDSM practitioners, all are welcome here. We would love to have you.

Beyond education, we have NSFW (lewd) channels, gaming, a big music culture, and other forms of media and entertainment. We have something for everyone!

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An 18+ BDSM Discord that aims to safely educate those interested in kink. We hold unique weekly educational kink and fetish events (chosen by the community). From inexperienced to veteran BDSM practitioners, all are welcome here. We would love to have you.

Beyond education, we have NSFW (lewd) channels, gaming, a big music culture, and other forms of media and entertainment. We have something for everyone!

Recent Posts

Weekly Events

Weekly Events

BDSM in Public: Exhibitionism, Sescretive, Open Lifestyle DISCUSSION – Sat, 9/28 6 PM EST – “How public are you with your lifestyle? If you are in a dynamic, do you keep it vanilla for the rest of the world or do you prefer being open about it? How "secret" are your kinks and your approach to the lifestyle? Are there levels of privacy you prefer? Does exhibitionism play a part in this? Does your local BDSM community play a part in this?”

Brats: Uncovering the Truth – Sat, 09/28 7 PM EST – “(The following is a parody event. The content is semi-scripted and satirical. Crowd interaction is encouraged and there will be game-like elements.) Have you or someone you know been subjected to a brat? Many Americans are reporting altercations with a group of people referring to themselves ominously as "brats"--or individuals afflicted with youthful, nonsensical comebacks and a propensity to stick out their tongues in pointed defiance. Fear grips the streets, but some brave investigative reporters infiltrated this clandestine organization.”

Newbie Online Munch – Sun, 10/29/ 12 PM EST – “This is an event to incentivize our new members to come out of the shadows, meet new people, and discuss how they stumbled into BDSM. You'll get to learn about our server, the culture we have here, as well as our official weekly event Question of the Week. There will also be a Q&A with participating Dungeon Crew members and Server Contributors.”

Discord101 – Fri, 10/04 7 PM EST – “Are you new to Discord? Are you interested in learning some helpful tricks to make Discord easier? Next Friday we will be hosting an informational on the ins and outs of Discord. This will be an open, structured QnA of WHATEVER you want to know!”

Negotiation, Limits, and Consent 101 – Sun, 10/6 7 EST – “I will be holding another guided discussion on Negotiation, Limits, and Consent: The Basics. This will not be full out open discussion, and I have handouts (yay!) for everyone that I will be reading from that we will then talk about after each section. This information should/will be applicable to both IRL and online play, and is good for people who are new or just need a refresher! At the end we will have open discussion & questions. Keep in mind I am not an expert, and I am just using resources and leading/facilitating the event.”

Weekly Events

Weekly Events

R-D/s Conflict Resolution - Sun, 9/23 10 PM EST - "For those of you who are interested in preventing things such as arguments or tension in your D/S relationship, this may just be the event for you."

Brats: Uncovering the Truth - Sat, 9/28 7 PM EST - "The following is a parody event. The content is semi-scripted and satirical. Crowd interaction is encouraged and there will be game-like elements. Have you or someone you know been subjected to a brat? Many Americans are reporting altercations with a group of people referring to themselves ominously as "brats"--or individuals afflicted with youthful, nonsensical comebacks and a propensity to stick out their tongues in pointed defiance. Fear grips the streets, but some brave investigative reporters infiltrated this clandestine organization."

BDSM in Public, Exhibitionism, Secretive, Open Lifestyle - Sat, 9/28 6 PM EST - "How public are you with your lifestyle? If you are in a dynamic, do you keep it vanilla for the rest of the world or do you prefer being open about it? How "secret" are your kinks and your approach to the lifestyle? Are there levels of privacy you prefer? Does exhibitionism play a part in this? Does your local BDSM community play a part in this?"

Weekly Events

Weekly Events

Leather Care 102 - Sun, 9/15 10 PM EST- "This event will be led over video for show and demonstration. This will be a review and sequel to my previous leather event from several months back. I will cover aspects of my personal recommendations when it comes to appraising leather properties for various means--from the boardroom to the bedroom. We will also cover the tools and materials necessary for meticulous care and longevity, and for the lowest effort approach if you aren't as insane as I am"

Pet Play 101 - Sun, 9/15 11 AM MST - "Calling all pups , buns , kittens , pony’s , foxes ect ect ect! I am gonna go ahead a do a little pet play 101 it will cover the very basics and will leave plenty of time for conversation and questions."

CG/l (Caregiver/little) discussion event - Sat, 09/21 6 PM EST - "What do you feel the difference between CG/l and ageplay is? What is your personal experience with littlespace, or your experience as a caregiver? What helps you get into this type of headspace and why do you enjoy it? How does this specific type of dynamic differ from other D/s relationships? Can you fulfill either role in other types of dynamics?"

Weekly Events

Weekly Events

Learn to Whip (but not Nae Nae) - Sat, 8/31 One of our community members put together an informative demonstration on rope whipping techniques. Rope whipping is the practice of treating the ends of your rope to prevent fray.

Rope-a-long - reoccurring This is a widely successful and regular rope event in which community members come together to socialize and practice their rope techniques. How could you knot enjoy that?

Brat Discussion Event - Thurs, 9/3 What do you feel is a good "bratiquette" (brat etiquette)? What's the difference between bratting and being a "bad sub"? How does a Brat Tamer D-type manage this kind of behaviour? What makes it exciting or enjoyable for both sides? What specific behaviours do you encourage a Brat to do, and where do you draw the line? Discuss brat/brat tamer dynamics!

Regular Rope Event!

Regular Rope Event!

For the last week we have been honored to have a nightly "Rope Along" hosted by members in our community. It has been the perfect mixture of socializing and learning, and hugely successful. Come in and join us for one of these Rope Events!

Later this week: We will be having a DISCUSSION EVENT on Rituals! To what extent are they a part of your dynamic? Why would you want or need them? How can rituals strengthen a connection or reinforce a desired state? What rituals work for you? Have you found easy but powerful ones? How can beginners start diving into this? How are rituals different from rules or protocols (and how do you put it all together)? Join in on the discussion!

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